Why is that teenagers be dealt in a much-connected way? How do change in parenting would help teenagers to groom themselves mentally? Gone are the days where children would not oppose their parents at any cost and obey them properly.
Now, the scenario is entirely different due to the huge impact of social aspects, media and technology development.
Dealing properly with teenagers is very important because of their various behavioural traits at their adolescence.
What are their behavioural traits that we see?
Common personality traits | a. Biological growth and development b. Increased decision making c. Increased pressure d. Shyness e. Carefulness f. Honesty g. Search for self |
Social changes | a. Becoming more self-governing from parents b. Starting to discover romantic relationships & sexual thoughts c. Spending more time with peers/ electronic gadgets d. Diversion from routines & studies |
Emotional changes | a. Frequent mood swings (might be quick/at random) |
At this age, Teens are normally much committed and interested to look into things/issues which are most important to them. |
Behavioural outcome of teenage & effect
How parenting can be done effectively at this age for teens?
Relationship between parents and children is an ideal one and it has to be treasured for life time. This should be dealt more as a partnership rather. Parenting is all about the way we nourish, nurture, navigate children in the right way throughout especially at their teens.
Bringing up the child at their childhood is important. Similarly, upbringing the teens is 5 times more than they were at the childhood.
Parents are compared to gardeners/ farmers in this aspect. The more stepwise care and effort they put; more is the positive outcome of child. When parents do not understand this partnership skill, they fail in being a good parent.
Must do’s – as parents: Taking efforts in understanding generation gap is the prime step. Henceforth, Understanding & fixing yardsticks like :
- Drawing limits between response & reaction
- Encouraging factors with limits
- Discouraging factors with limits
- Never show anger on face/tone
- Instead of showing anger and dominance, we need to use logical reasons to calm down the teen
- Instead of using sarcastic & bitter speech, speak to teens with love and affection
- Must not criticize them as they are much capable of judging & understanding
- Must not find fault with their behaviours. Instead make them analyse why and why not?
- Using motivational statements about their good behaviours would keep them growing more in a positive way
- Giving them the confidence that we are there to shoulder them at their ups & downs
Must- ‘ don’ts’ – as parents: Never talk with the following:
Conclusion:
Its high time as parents we need to understand the fact that every teen has the ability to support the entire world. All that he needs is the right guidance and a positive support at the right time.
With proper understanding of partnership in relationship, teens excel & outperform their commitments as a student, son, professional, citizen, son-in law, father & grandfather and ultimately as a complete man in the society.